Sharing Your Mental Space With Consequences
I always say that the good thing about poor decisions is that you can always make a better decision to take its place. I was engaged in a conversation the other day about some of the poor choices we made as teens and young adults. Then the conversation turned to how grateful we were (and are) that the consequences of those poor decisions did not follow us throughout our lives. We were crazy and daring young kids and if it were not for the grace of God, I shudder to think where we would be today.
But let’s shift for a minute to the here and now. As adults, we are not immune to making poor decisions. However, I hope we have the wherewithal to make another decision that will alter the effect of the consequences of bad decisions. In other words, we can make a better decision that will change the course of our lives for the better. The alternative, of course, is that we continue to live in the sinkhole that is the “consequences” of a poor decision.
The root of a poor decision can often be traced to what we “want” vs “what we know is best.” The short term payoff of a poor decision is often instant gratification. But the long term affect is that it can have lingering consequences that can have a tremendous affect on your mental, physical and overall well-being. While the affect may not be recognizable immediately, eventually you’ll be faced with the reality of that poor decision.
So what do we do when the consequences of a poor decision finally hit the fan? We make another decision. We face the reality of our situation & reason, we:
- Decide where we need to me
- Analyze the situation
- Look at our options
- Weigh the pros (needs) and cons (wants)
- Allow the pros to outweigh the cons
- Make a better decision
- Act on that decision
I can tell you from first hand experience that procrastinating and “hoping” will not make the consequences of a poor decision go away. Don’t let the same thing that got you into a bad situation (what you want to do vs what’s best for you), keep you in a bad decision. What you want will come in time, but you’ll only delay it by continuing to share your space with the consequences of bad decisions.
“Every day presents another opportunity to hit the reset button on your life.” Charita Cadenhead