Change: Necessary and Inevitable

Adapting to Change

Adapting to Change

Change can make it seem like your entire world is crashing.  Others just go with the flow and just adapt and move on.   This post is devoted to those that do not adapt to changing easily. After reading this post, I hope you’ll be able to make some decisions that will aid you in revamping how you view change.

Dreading Change

If you are among those that have a disdain for change, it  is unfortunate because it is inevitable. One thing that might help when change is imminent, is that you can try paying less attention to the “change.”  Instead focus on ways that you can adapt to that change. Sometimes a change does not even affect you, but you still perceive that it has or will.  David Conner says it best:  People adjust to change, not by learning to like what is taking place, but by forming new expectations that can lead to success under the new conditions.  So let’s say that your perception  is a reality.  How are you going to handle it so that you can easily make the transition?  The outcome may be a pleasant surprise.

You can start by taking a look at yourself and how the change is or will affect you.  There may be various aspects of you or your situation that make change seem intolerable.  Perhaps any of the following may be the culprit of your discomfort to change:

• Personality
• Character
• Comfort zone
• Socialization
• Education
• Resources
• Availability
• Attitude towards change

The above is an abbreviated list and you can probably add to it and include the things that you believe that a  change will affect the most.  Then rate each item on the list and deal with the specifics of how each aspect is affected by change, if any.  If the is or will not affect your life as dramatically as you believed it would, then good deal!  Celebrate.  However, if you believe there is an aspect that is affected, then you have to decide WHY it is affected and what you can do to make it work for you.  Oftentimes we have to change the way we think about something in order for it to work in our lives.

Still Having Trouble

If you are still having trouble with it, perhaps you need to talk with someone who can be understanding and yet aim at same time. Only you know if this is a medical or mental issue that requires a professional such as a therapist or other trained health professional. I am not a medical professional, but as a life coach, I can personally tell you that the most rewarding part of my job is watching people suddenly make the distinction between reality and the perception of reality.  It is a beautiful thing.

Chances are that the change is not as horrible as you believed it would be.  And even if it is, decide what you can do about it or how you can change the way you think about it.

“Every day presents another opportunity to hit the reset button on your life.”  Charita Cadenhead, Life Coach